Keeping this in mind, Brooklyn-based Erika Anderson addressed hundreds of Hello Kitty valentines from “me” to “you” and gave them out to people she saw on her work commute on Valentine’s Day last year.
“I think it can be such a terrible day, whether you’re single or with someone,” Anderson told BuzzFeed, explaining why she started the project.
Erika is a freelance writer and editor living in Brooklyn, New York. She teaches for a writers' workshop, works as an editorial assistant and social media director, and writes copy for start ups, advertising agencies and the United Nations.
Being mindful of single people, she decided to make hundreds of Valentine’s Day cards, and gave them away to anybody who wasn’t “running away.”
On her morning commute, she said people were sort of weirded out. But by nighttime, people were much more excited.
“On my evening commute, so many people were like ‘Nobody gave me a valentine!’ or, ‘You made my day!’ I think there’s nothing better than that. So I thought, OK, I should make this an annual thing.”
This year Anderson is expanding the project. She’s invited about 50 people to her house for a valentine-making party, where the group plans to make 1,000 notes.
She bought handmade paper and invited people to bring their own cards and supplies. She even has a friend in San Francisco who is extending the movement to the West Coast. There’s also a hashtag this year: #ArmyOfLovers.
“I think adulthood is synonymous with cynicism, and when are we more cynical than on the 14th of February?” she said. “I’m hoping we can counteract that a bit.”
“It’s weird to talk to strangers, it’s weird to give them things,” she said. “I’m going to proceed as I did last year, but I’m going to hope that I won’t do it alone.”
If you are in NYC want to help out and be a part of the #ArmyOfLovers, let Erika know via her website and Twitter.
Stef Safran, owner of Stef and the City has been in the matchmaking industry for more than twelve years. She gave her tips for singles:
1. Go to a restaurant to meet new people and munch on yummy food at communal tables.
2. Join a sporting league like Singles Sports League that has various leagues and activities for their members – parties, field trips or picnics.
3. Get a dog – chances to meet your love strolling in a park with your new pet are really high. Moreover, dog clubs offer various single events monthly. Some of them even have "Dating for Dog Lovers".
4. If you are divorced join a club that has regular parties specifically for singles who are divorced with kids.
5. Learn some efficient conversation starters: talk movie, music or some sports – who didn't watch the Superbowl? Be prepared with what's going on so that you can easily talk about something relaxing and relevant.
6. Smile and be okay with standing alone: Smiling people look approachable, and being with gadgets or other people intimidate others from approaching you.
7. Ask a question about the place you are at: It's not a cheesy line if you ask someone if they've been to the event or location that you are at. It can start a conversation!
8. Compliments are key: Start the conversation with a compliment, it's easy and free and tends to put a smile on the person's face.
And US Cosmopolitan asked its readers for their tips and experience of a single VD. That’s what they’ve shared:A girl’s night out
“Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re alone! Round up some unattached chicks and hit the bars, a restaurant, the local karaoke joint, the bowling lanes, whatever. Revel in your ability to have an amazing time, no men needed”. —Katriona, 30A movie-and-comforting food night
“Whether it’s George Clooney or Johnny Depp,s pend the night with your ultimate celeb crush. Rent a handful of his movies and treat yourself to an eye-candy marathon. —Jillian, 22Give yourself a treat
“Since you aren’t spending your dough on some dude, might as well spend it on yourself. Give yourself some credit for how amazing you are and treat yourself to something speciallike a mani-pedi, a new necklace, or a blow-out at the salon”. — Aubrey, 27Party hard
Party at your place! Invite friends over for wine, appetizers, gossiping, and good times. To mix it up, make it a theme party, like suggesting that everyone wear all pink (or black, if you caught the “Singles Awareness Day” bug) and create an iPod playlist with songs like “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun” and “Holding Out for a Hero.” — Lauren, 21
Though being single on Valentine’s Day may seem one of the worst things – unless you know some tips for singles that will actually make you enjoy your holiday and make it fun, no matter what!